“When the axe entered the forest the tress said “look the handle is one of us”.
I started to write this blog post about 15 times in the last two months. I’m not sure if I stopped out of frustration or anger, whichever one it was this needs to be addressed.
I am a twenty-six year old plus size women from Brooklyn New York who over the years has falling madly in love with every inch of my nearly 300pound body. Yes Nearly 300 pounds. In the process of me falling in love with myself the noise from the audience of critics has gotten louder, “stronger” and wronger ( I know that not a word but let me live). I usually try not to pay attention to the audience but I must admit as I stepped into the social media world a lot more it’s hard not to. The size of the audience didn’t surprise me, nor did the Ludicrous comments uttered out of their mouths. As a plus size women sadly I was familiar with it. The most astonishing part of this ordeal was who had a front seat.
Women who not only spoke like me, walked like me but ironically looked just like me. There is a proverb that says “when the axe entered the forest the tress said “look the handle is one of us”. Damn that shit hurts. It is senseless how plus size women can be the plus size woman worst enemy. We have so many battles to fight on and off the internet. When it comes to plus size body appreciation there’s no way we are going to win if we are too busy fighting each other. Don’t believe me? Go to your favorite plus size social media site designed to highlight all plus size shapes, I bet the women with the most negative things to say looks just like the person in the picture. Conditioned critics missing the bigger picture. Are “we” our worst enemy, in a sense? We must rebel against acceptable fatness. “Only curvy plus is the right plus”. By doing that we are falling for the same conditioning we claim to rejec
I could go on and on but I won’t just remember a bunch of tiny spiders can tie up a hug lion. We as a community need to embrace and fight together instead of picking apart denying our own reflection.
Have you ever experienced this what are your thoughts? Let’s talk!